Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all you mums out there, especially my blogging friends.  I truly appreciate your friendship and support.


I know this year there is more than likely never to be a Mother's Day for me.  Last year I was about to start the biggest fight of my life against stage III breast cancer.  This year  I can't stop thinking about what should have been.  I should have been celebrating my first Mother's Day with "N".  She should have come home in November 2013 or January 2014.  Thankfully for her, she has a family somewhere in this country of mine.  I will never hear a little one say, "I love you."  I will never receive a precious Mother's Day card handmade with lots of care and attention.  There are too many nevers too list!  My cancer was not bad luck.  It was not God's will.  It was not given to me because I could handle it. And I HATE people saying it's better to have the cancer before "N" came home than after.  Don't you think I know that, but it doesn't help me deal with my loss.   I have been told I had likely had the cancer for 3-5 years.  This means it had been REPEATEDLY missed on mammograms.  My first two mammograms I have learned were on film. The first digital mammogram was  in 2012.  My petition, a way I was hoping would help me deal with my loss, has fallen flat on its face.  More people sign petitions about pipelines and off leash dog parks!   Those dogs may not have owners to walk them if they die of undiagnosed cancer and the people signing pipelines well you are less likely to die of a pipeline leak than you are cancer.


Today I celebrate my mother and my grandmother and am thankful for their love and support especially during the last year.  I also wish all of you new mums or soon to be mums, "G", "S" and "K" the happiest of days with your new little ones.  Also to those of you with new additions to your family, "L", congratulations.  To those of you still waiting, "F" and "M", I hope completion of your adoption happens very soon.

Cancerversary

Well, it is one year since I was diagnosed with breast cancer and what a year it has been!   So much has changed and continues to change.  I am having a very difficult day today and there isn't a lot to say except that I have been told to wait a while before I go back to the adoption process because of the risk of recurrence.  I am unable to deal with my emotions around this issue yet as for two years I waited and waited and then was matched with the most darling, adorable three year old imagineable.  I guess every parent says that about their child, but this little girl had such a sparkle in her eyes and lovely smile.  I continue to have great difficulty tolerating the hormonal treatments that are designed to keep the cancer at bay.  With breast cancer, unlike other forms of cancer, the doctors don't seem to want to say there is "NED" or no evidence of disease. 


Thank you to those of you following this blog who have signed my ipetition and visited my other blog.  I am so grateful for the support of my blogging frieneds.  If you haven't already done so please hop on over and take a look at my blog  Hoping to Make a Difference.   Fourteen states in the USA already have a requirement that women be informed if they have dense breasts (check out Are You Dense?) and all I want for everything I have been through is for BC to have the requirement.


I am pretty low today so please forgive the tone in this email.  I was told on Tuesday that I really should stay on both the shots and the Tamoxifen and the combination is making life absolutely miserable!  Before, the shots were a 3-5% boost, now they seem to be deemed essential.

Please sign my petition

Hello to anybody still following this blog.  I finished my radiation treatments at the end of October, had my modified radical mastectomy at the end of November and got CLEAR pathology results in January after my oncologist had the report reread.  I have had two things picked up on a CT scan in January that were of concern but they have turned out to be nothing.  On March 5th I learned that the enlarged lymph node on the left side is BENIGN!!!!!  Oh man, I'd rather be a false positive like this than the false negative I was last April.  The little spots on my right lung are in the exact position to be scaring from the radiation, so we are breathing a sigh of relief.  It has been a long two months and now I hope to start reclaiming my life and finding a new normal.  I need to wait a while longer before returning to the adoption process but so hope I can do so.  If I let myself get down and think about what I may have lost, I wind up very upset.  I worked so long and hard on accomplishing my dream of becoming a mum that I can't let it go yet. I can't begin to tell you how heartbreaking this will be.  I WANT nothing more in the world than to become a mum.   Please keep me in your prayers that things stay positive (no recurrence despite higher odds with stage III cancer) and that I can return to the adoption.  On the Breast Cancer forum the other day I was reading about women newly diagnosed.  One lady had just been diagnosed and had a four year old that she had adopted a year ago!   She said how much her son was helping her to fight her cancer. 


I have started a blog with a petition where I am trying to make a difference.  That is that women be told when it is identified by screening mammography that they have dense breasts.  This way further testing (ultrasound or MRI) can be done.  Please hop on over with the link below and take a look.


http://doyouhavedensebreasts.blogspot.ca/


To those of you in the USA there are only 14 states where it is law that women be told.  Check out the link to the website "Are You Dense?"